despite our special friendship's old-fashioned quality so far, M and i as individuals drive each other crazy, both in a blissful way and in a frustratingly aggravating way, and not either-or either; sometimes we drive each other crazy at the same time both ways!
if you have seen that movie, The Marrying Man, with Alec Baldwin and Kim Basinger, where they met, got married, broke up, then reunited, then got married again, then broke up, then reunited, got married, etc. for seven times in the course of their lives-- well, that's what it feels like with M; and we've only just begun!
i'm reminded, too, of Mr. and Mrs. Smith, where Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie played characters who were both so alike in many basic ways, but were also so different in many important ways. Soulmates and explosives all at the same time!
after another week-long intense discussion again, to get my personal sense of peace and perspective back, i just had another combined astrology report done, based on our specific birthdates, birthtimes and birthplaces, this time a Couples Report with astrology.com, and here is what it says--
Part 1: Planets and Aspects
Sun Sextile Saturn
This is a wonderful indicator of a long-lasting relationship and it will help to bring more stability, dedication and maturity to you both. You will find that together your life becomes more secure as you put your focused will on responsibilities and practical issues. This is sure to forge a very strong bond between you which will help you form a peaceful and content relationship rather than one based on jet-setting or living high on the hog. Be careful that after a period of time you do not take each other for granted even though yours is a very comfortable relationship.
Your relationship will enable you to learn a great deal about yourselves. You will probably prefer peace and quiet to any other form of lifestyle. There will not be much experimentation and digging deeper into your psyches here and you will be more reserved in the way you express your feelings for each other. Even though people may see you as somewhat cool, calm and collected toward each other, they will not understand that you do not need constant verbal reassurances to remind you of what you already feel on a very deep level.
In time you will find that when the chips are down and the going gets tough, that you can always count on each other, because loyalty, friendship and reliability are positive and nurturing aspects of your life together. When it comes to the hum-drum art of daily living, taking care of work and the responsibilities you have to each other, this is the energy you want to see you through. And you have it!
Mercury Opposition Jupiter
There are usually no serious detriments with this aspect. Areas you need to watch have to do with becoming overly idealistic regarding things in your relationship. Expecting too much out of each other and your relationship can cause problems. You both may have the tendency to promise more than you can actually deliver. By keeping your expectations under control, you can keep the real problems between you at a manageable level. Blowing up things beyond proportion can cause you to lose perspective of the good things in your relationship.
Take care not to take risks that are too wild to ever come true, especially in finances, where you can overextend yourselves and cause financial difficulties. If you were always too timid or shy in taking chances, then this aspect can easily throw you in the other direction, as you throw caution to the wind, along with your money, never to see it again. You always see the pot of gold on the horizon together and failure never seems to stop you from trying. In your eyes hope is eternal and just around the next corner is where "our" fortune lies. Even after failure, you seem to experience some good luck that has you bouncing back to try again.
You never seem to be comfortable with where you are, or what you have, always trying to do better than expectations will allow. Travel may play a large role in your lives, either for educational, spiritual or religious purposes or perhaps just for simply having plain fun.
Venus Trine Uranus
This is sure to be one of the most "different" relationships you will ever experience. It will probably be very open and unconventional in some way, perhaps sexually, where all of the standards of behavior that you learned in the past go right out the window. There may be differences between you in family backgrounds, upbringing, age or race, and people may be quite surprised that you are together at all. Your relationship may be considered one of those that "breaks all the rules".
You are sure to have more than your share of friends that stand out in a crowd, some who are a bit odd or unusual, as well those who are creative. The arts, music, swimming, skating or dance will hold your interest and you will enjoy sharing these things together. This relationship can be very rich in opportunities to learn things you might never learn on your own and it would be well for you to be flexible and adaptable in your reaction to them. Give your partner plenty of space and freedom to take from these experiences whatever it is they feel they need.
Mars Square Uranus
This may be a very difficult relationship, filled with intense anger, frustration and unexpected outbursts. It will also be filled with passion and a wild disregard for caution as you go off on crazy adventures in every direction. This is an unsafe configuration for your physical well-being. You will never be at a loss for something exciting to do, but there will be a certain degree of self-centered attitudes which are quick to anger and which are highly unstable. Rebellion and a desire for freedom of restraint are present here. Great energy, innovation, creativity and experimentation attend this aspect.
People in your environment will either see you as a pair of wild and crazy people or perhaps as a dangerous couple. You won't follow any rules because you will be making them up as you go along. There should not be any problem in the department of sex - you will find it spontaneous, exciting and sometimes out of control. You may expect to spend time in the emergency room or at the doctor's office, as together you are an accident waiting to happen. Give each other some breathing room so you don't get on each other's nerves and then fly off the handle.
Jupiter Semisextile Pluto
This relationship is sure to have a very powerful and potentially healing effect on both of you. You lend support to each other in times of weakness and you share great faith in your partner. This faith will not only transform your life, but the lives of others around you as well. You will consciously choose to take on a lot more than you have ever attempted before through the transforming ability of this aspect. Good planning, foresight and a sense of timing attend this placement as well.
There will be a feeling of being spiritually or magically blessed just by your coming together in this relationship. Any difficulties or hardships that you endure will have you bouncing back even stronger than you were before, as if you were spiritually reborn. Work closely related to healing, religion, health or the relationship of the body to its spiritual counterpart is favored.
Uranus Conjunct Pluto
This relationship is going to put you through some very big changes. If you are looking for a happy, peaceful and down-to-earth relationship, then this one may not be it. You may go through inescapable turmoil and change while you are together. Earth shaking and unexpected events will serve to mold your relationship and they will affect other people around you as well. If you can hold it together, then you can serve as an instrument of change in the world around you. This can strengthen the bond between you. It will be easy to notice when the bottom is going to fall out of your blissful life together. Simply observe how long "peace" has been in your life. Once peace arrives, shakeups may be soon to follow.
Neptune Sextile Pluto
Matters of spirituality, psychic awareness or communication, supernatural forces and mind-reading will be very strong interests in your lives and it may be impossible to deny or to get away from them. There may be times that you can actually hear what the other person is thinking without ever having to say anything. You might decide to play the role of psychic detectives, uncovering mysteries or hidden things. You enjoy anything that has to do with mind expansion or mind alteration.
hmmmm. no wonder. 'might as well not fight it, but go with the flow, roll with the punches! this is what i've dreamed about my whole life, isn't this?
yeah, right. to say that this relationship challenges me is an understatement. it's more like a total psychic, spiritual, intellectual, psychological and emotional overhaul.
oh, what a ride! well, hang on, dear heart, and sit tight.
the curtains are just rising.